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For the Passover ceremony, bitter herbs are used to symbolize the embittered slavery experienced by Hebrews in Ancient Egypt. The herbs ensure that this history is never forgotten; that it is taught each and every Passover.

This is just the basic beginner recipe……

• 2 cups of all purpose flour ( no leavening agents )
• 2 cups of sugar ( white or brown )
• 3 teaspoons of vanilla extract
• 4-5 eggs
• 2-4 sticks of real butter….depends on recipe ( do not substitute margarine , will make hard and flat)
• Mix to a smooth texture
• Make sure you spray or flour the pan so that bread does not stick, before placing batter inside
• Bake at around 325 degrees for about 45 min, or until brown, check center  with a toothpick or fork to ensure it is baked throughout, every oven is different
• Remember when you take it out the oven to wrap it in aluminum foil so that it stays moist and doesn’t dry out…. Or use a cooling rack

Some other baking tips…..

1. Read through the entire recipe, and make sure you have all the ingredients on the counter so you don’t forget anything.
2. Remember to turn your oven on at least 10-15 minutes before you start baking so that it has time to heat up
3. Prep your pan….grease and flour the pan before making the batter so everything is ready to go when the batter is ready
4. To dust pans with flour, sprinkle them generously, ( for dark batter, use cocoa to avoid a white coating) invert pan and tap lightly to remove excess….there are sprays on the market that can do the job also just as well
5. Measure all dry ingredients
6. Measure liquids…..but you can also do it to taste
7. Place baking pan in the middle of the oven rack
8. Allow cake to cool

Enjoy the fruits of your labour……..serve modestly, this could easily serve 10 or more .

Recipes coming soon!!!!!!

Shamarah’s     Lemon Coconut Bread & Nutty Pound & Chocolate Chip
Solema’s            Sweet Potato Bread & Banana Bread
Naamah’s         Pina Colada Bread
Ahshiyah’s        Cinnamon Raisin Rum Bread & Apple Dutch
Shema’s….        Carrot Cake Bread
Deborah’s…..    Low-fat  Apple Crumb cake
Michelles’………Cranberry and White -Chocolate mini-muffins
Hannah’s ….    Dulce  De Leche Bread
Jaharia’s ….    Pineapple Bread & Marble  Poundcake
Miliede’s….      Sweet potato and Coconut Bread
Paryahs’         Banana   Rum Nut
Shiphrahs’……Coconut Drops  and Cinnatwists Bread
Neriyahs’……White Chocolate Macadamia Nut Bread
Azaryahs……Lemon Glaze
Hadariahs’……Heavenly  Disguise
Angels’…..Reeses ‘  Peanut Butter Delight and Pina Colada Bread
Mehidahs’      Spice Bread
Zuriels…………Almond Coconut  Bread
Amathas’……..Cinnamon  Pecan and  Raisin Rum  Bread
Simeons ‘       “Slap your unbelieving mama in the groin”   Honey Walnut Bread……. (love the name…that’s’ how good it is !)

Happy Baking!!!!!!

Topic: Grown folks business

Deut. 23 vs. 17…..there shall be no whore of the daughters of Israel…

This is the word in the street…..Everybody in  their local  town  knows where the hookers and hoes’ hang out. Who is the local tramp ? Boys be laughing and pointing. Say she give it up way to easy. Not wife material. Ask me no questions, I tell you no lies.  You making  a spectacle of yourself, showing off, prancing around, drawing attention to yourself. Girls be shaking they head….  They embarrassed for you, but you too hardheaded to listen….you think they jealous,  cuz the guys be sweating you… Booty call.., slut, hoe, skank…whatever. Your reputation is trashed, for nothing. Now the word according to the Most High about a ‘whore’ is the following…..

Hebrews 13 vs. 4…marriage is honourable above all but whoremongers and adulterers, God will judge.

Sisters , when  you seek out the Lord and are on the road to recovery from sin, you need to get your spirit right and study FIRST, apply what you have learned and NOT jump into bed with the first man that  shows up with or without a bible in his hand. Some brothers got serious game, and look mighty fine and by the time they finish telling you what you’ve been dreaming of hearing you can’t remember where your panties went. The word of the Lord should always be the only voice of reasoning. If you are burning between the legs you still have to get it right, pray , fast and in time the right spiritual brother will come along…..guided by the will of the Father. How well do you know this brother you claim you in love with?, How well does he know you?…..I mean REALLY know each other. Communicate and elaborate, leave no stone unturned. What if the man of your dreams is great with kids, but you found out that he was a convicted child molester ? / Are you comfortable with the choice you made? Or that same man is great with kids, came from a big family, and wants a large family of his own someday, but you can’t have children for some reason. Alcohol or drug abuse , any sexual transmitted diseases?  What about baby mama drama? Or baby daddies? The responsibility is two-fold. It is important that you understand how serious a matter this is for the Lord, before you take one step forward.

A cousin of mine, used to be a pimp….he gave me an earful of talking trash…most women  he could take advantage of had ‘daddy issues’  and are in some ways looking for a father figure. A lot of women prostitute themselves for a lack of self-esteem   and the need to belong to a ‘family’ to feel loved, powerful and beautiful. Most ‘hoes’ you flash a little money in your wallet, and they so busy staring at it, they actually believe they going to get some of it….for free! There are some women that are ‘meat watchers’ and always looking at a man’s   crotch….pick them up at the club, they dancing all nasty waiting for a man to have an erection then back off…and then when the man “assumes” the party is going to the bedroom , all of a sudden things are different….men don’t like games. What you doing at the club or house party anyway? Why are you keeping company at his house or yours, you know what’s up , don’t act like ya don’t. It starts off innocent enough on the phone for hrs, then meet up for lunch/ dinner and so forth…..it builds up from there.  Women when you meet a man he tells you what he likes…..morally, sexually, financially etc., you know it generally from the beginning, it’s not going to change unless HE wants it to…. so hoping that it is going to change or that you can do the change for him is a big mistake. Sex is really a small part of your entire package. Men know when they have a good woman and a womans’ potential ….a pimps game is to make sure she is off the market so nobody else can have her. Some women are content with a man bringing a bottle of alcohol over, maybe some food, maybe something for their kid(s ) if they have… and next thing you answering a booty call…that is how you will be seen, and that’s all you can expect…..they not going to say you his girl, wife or take you out to be seen with him on the regular because you just a piece of ass. Rough and raw coming from a former pimp and that’s’ the light stuff.

An unmarried sister that is having sexual relationships with multiple partners is  a whore , so please take special note….  if you are unmarried (all the single ladies ) and are learning the scriptures and serious about your repentance…..keep your legs closed and your bible open.

A married sister having   sexual   relations with a man( that is not her husband ) is considered not only a whore but a fornicator and an adulteress.

A man that is having sexual relationships with multiple women is considered a whoremonger and is guilty of  ADULTERY , ***IF he has sex with a woman that already has a husband….make sure that woman is NOT you!

This world says that a woman can leave her husband file for divorce and get re-married , not so according to the scriptures!!! If you leave your husband and get remarried, you are a fornicator and a adulteress , and the man that you now lay with is considered an adulterer, and the MOST HIGH forbids it. You do not want to be in this group of women!! Death is your sentence from the Lord.

Mark 10 vs 10,11….whosoever shall put away his wife , and marry another, committeth  adultery against her…..and if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she comitteth adultery.

Apocrypha Ecc 23 vs. 23….for first she hath disobeyed the law of the most High; and secondly, she hath trespassed against her own husband; and thirdly, she hath played the whore in adultery….

1 Corinthians 6 vs. 9, 10..….know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

Some women on their road to spiritual recovery have sadly made some un-wise choices and are now finding themselves in some life altering and very embarrassing situations.  You deserve better, show yourself some respect. Be a positive example especially to  the  young women around you that may follow your example and especially if you have daughters of your own.

What are you thinking ?!

Stop being a ‘booty call’!

Who wants to be the “other ’ woman? Are you happy? Does his wife know about you? Do you know if he has a wife already ? Is he separated from an unbelieving wife or has a wife in the law? Did you ask?.Do you even care ?   How many baby daddies is it going to take for you to get yourself   together, settle down and do what the scriptures say? In the old days, it was a shame for a woman not to get married and have children , divorce was  virtually unheard of in minority communities. People used to say “What’s wrong with her that she can’t keep a man?”

Don’t believe any heterosexual  REPENTANT  Israelite woman who says…she don’t need or want a man, especially if she had one before….it’s not in our nature. Even sisters   whose unbelieving spouse departed, the desire and long term goal is to find a man that fears the Lord and who will protect and provide for her.  No woman wants to be the third wheel in the room….get your OWN husband. When a woman sees something that she likes the hunt is on. In the animal kingdom, many species have mating rituals so they can select the ideal mate….. sometimes it’s a fight to death….it’s that way for you too ……so choose scripturally and wisely.

In the movie ‘Mahogany’…it wasn’t until the end of the movie that she declared ‘ Can I get my old man back!’.If you and your ‘boo’ had a falling out, you are really the only one that knows how to get him back, you had him the first time.  Blackmail, extortion, gossip, threats, evil speech and wicked deeds is not going to solve your problems or put you on the right track to get your man back.

A man wants to be a man , in control , and head of his house….let him do it…..more so in righteousness…a repentant man who wants to be a servant of the Lord and fears  the Almighty God….

If you want to be by yourself , that’s’ your choice….because at the end of the day …you have to go to bed alone and possibly die alone without a mate, so you are on the wrong  path and will be classified a grumpy old maid  haunted by hot flashes and the visions of ‘what could have been’….or  sin and die in your wickedness.

I’m gonna tell you straight up what my grandmother used to say…

(she did sell corn liquor  in the back of the house so she was a little bold) “there is a difference between a warm blanket over you and a warm man on top of you  to keep you comfortable at night”……that was my daddys’ mama  Maggie…. she had 6 kids and 14 granddaughters, my other grandma  ( Mary Jane )had 11 kids, and  7 granddaughters …..twenty two  great grandkids on  my mothers’ side of the family alone.…..the stories I have heard!!!!

You can lie to me and other people, but you can’t lie to yourself.

Black women love to run our mouths…(pride because we can’t get our way…and when we are angry or embarrassed , forget it, the lips can barely stop moving to come up for air)…I know this very well

Proverbs 9 vs. 13….a foolish woman is clamourous , she is simple, and knoweth nothing.  This is the number one complaint that ALL men have with women….. always  talking, and having something to say…even when we know better and are DEAD wrong!

What started out as a small matter that could easily be resolved , just got bigger and bigger because you fed the demon!!! Sometimes,   just shut the f@#% up! ……it will eliminate a lot of arguments and problems….even if you are right!!!  The minute you go against the scriptures & against your husband you are already in the wrong. You let Satan get the victory.  When you are right , there is no need to prove your point, the angels bear witness to your testimony….. (when the Lord revealed this to me and I learned to accept it and applied this to my life for the first time it was like a huge weight being lifted off my spirit…..release of a huge burden that gets easier with time….I said with time .not overnight at least not for me ) The Lord will reveal it in due time, when you are right, you know it and your man knows it too , but he just doesn’t want to hear about it sis….especially from you. Sometimes it’s the way you say it and the timing also. Your husband has to report to Christ , and you my dear sister have to report to your husband.

Here are two great examples between a husband and wife with a difference of opinion……

Genesis 21 vs. 11,12….and the thing was very grievous in Abrahams’ sight because of his son. And God said unto to Abraham, Let it not be grievous in thy sight because of the lad, and because of thy bondwoman; in all that Sarah hath said unto thee, hearken unto her voice; for in Isaac shall thy seed be called

Apocrypha Tobit 2 vs. 12-14…..they paid her wages, and gave her also besides a kid…..and when it was in my house, and began to cry, I said unto her, From whence is this kid? Is it not stolen? render it to the owners; for it is not lawful to eat anything that is stolen…..

Vs. 14 But she replied upon me, It was given for a gift more than the wages. Howbeit I did not believe her, but bade her render it to the owners; and I was abashed at her. But she replied upon me, Where are thine alms and thy righteous deeds? Behold, thou and all thy works are known.

Apocrypha Ecc. 20 vs. 1-2…..there is reproof that is not comely; again, some man holdeth his tongue, and he is wise. It is much better to reprove than to be angry secretly; and he that confesseth his fault shall be preserved from hurt……..

I used to fight I heavy grudge demon…….mad, pissed off don’t say nothing, don’t talk for days….. because I didn’ t apply this very  same scripture!!!!Don’t do it because when that monkey gets out of the cage….. trust me, sis, it is going to be fire…..for you …NOT the other person. You mad and the other person is just fine…..you in a corner with your bottom lip stuck out…..that demon just grows  and grows and you become something you  and other people don’t even recognize anymore.

Do not use your children , sex or money to manipulate your man to get what you want ,  it is only a temporary fix. Satan will let you THINK you are in control, but the victory is   ALWAYS the LORDS….You all puffed up because you think you hurting somebody and it feels real good too….remember the ultimate power is the Most High…he is directing this thing  we call life…..he picked the characters, roles and the outcome of the story.  Understand this, what you  don’t want, truly someone else will gladly take, so don’t ever get it twisted……a repentant man who sincerely wants to do the right thing, that keeps the commandments to the best of his ability, takes care of his kids, your kids, a roof over your head, loves you, treats you good and has a job ……………(lord willing) you crazy….hold your tongue, keep the commandments,  trust  and believe in the Lord to take care of things.

Me and my husband were shopping late at Wal-mart the other evening, he goes one way, I go another, we meet up in an aisle, he is at the end, dressed up from a meeting earlier in the day….not the norm…. and some “younger’ “half my age’ women are coming I can hear them but can’t see them…..and they definitely can’t see me from where I am standing. One of the ladies almost knocked herself out staring at him because she knocked   down   the display and bottles and cartons went everywhere. Everyone was laughing including my husband as he helped clean up the mess….so I say to him “You still stopping the ladies babe?” We both had a good laugh…and the kids   cracked up also , when we retold the story.

The scriptures are a tutorial and instructional guide on how to keep your man &marriage together. The road is not easy, and has been a cross for many of us to bear, however divorce is NOT an option with the Lord……until death do you part….so you’ve got to make it work…..choose wisely!!!!!!

What is fornication?   When  a married woman has sexual relations outside of the marriage. It is also the ONLY reason for divorce according to the scriptures.

Apocrypha Ecc 26 vs. 22…..a harlot shall be counted as spittle; but a married woman is a tower against death to her husband

Apocrypha  Tobit 8 vs. 6-8….Thou madeth  Adam, and gaveth  him  Eve his wife for a helper and stay; of them came mankind; thou hast said, It is not good that man should be alone; let us make unto him an aid like unto himself…..and  O Lord , I take not my sister for lust, but uprightly; therefore mercifully ordain that we may become aged together.

1 Corinthians 3 vs. 1….likewise ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, that if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives.

1 Corinthians 7 vs. 10-15……and unto the married  I command, yet not  I but the Lord, let the wife  NOT depart from her husband…..BUT and IF she depart , let her remain  UNMARRIED  or RECONCILED to her husband; and let not the husband put away his wife….if any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.  And the woman   that   hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and he unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; else were your children unclean, but now they are holy……….

But if the unbelieving depart them depart. A brother or a sister  are not under bondage in such cases; but God hath called us to peace.

Webster’s  definition  of  reconcile…. To bring together in love or friendship: to reach a compromise agreement about differences.

To be at  PEACE in your home, you must be on one accord when it comes to the scriptures ,  this  would be ’‘ being pleased to dwell” even if one spouse is a non-believer

So an example could be …

If a husband ( a repentant Isrealite man ) has an unbelieving wife (which could be you for instance ), and he explains  to you Deut 22 vs 5…..the  woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment; for all that do so are an abomination unto the Lord our God” ,. the unbelieving wife at that point would understand and accept  because she loves her husband that she would longer be able to wear pants and that her favorite pair of jeans  and all unlawful  apparel will be replaced and a new wardrobe is needed. She is willing to keep the commandments and follow his example, according to the scriptures….

Another example;

On the other side of the spectrum, the wife (you, a newly repentant  Isrealite woman ) with the unbelieving husband, he understands and accepts that his wife.. ( the repentant woman ) is keeping the laws of the Most High, so she ( could be you )  is no longer dressing like she used to …..( more modest apparel ), he can see the changes in her behavior ( your conversation ) according to the scriptures , also she is no longer cooking or eating un-lawful food, but still cooking and cleaning for her unbelieving husband ,  so instead of pork chops for dinner, she graciously served lamp chops , based on the dietary laws outlined in Leviticus  Chapter 11. She is still being in subjection to him & he is willing to keep the law based on her faith, conversation and example.

1 Corinthians 7 vs. 28…But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hast not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh (marital  problems )

I can confess I am a work in progress, have mercy on me Father!!

Okay, here we go with the report card…..

Time to stand before the Most High and Christ……..Did I pass my test Lord?

Well Shamarah, you got a C-minus in almost everything, a couple of A’s and B’s and in marriage you got a D border-line F….which brought your average down.

Satan and his armies had you wrapped around their finger for a while, but you kept fighting, by the way, Let me show you who you were married to in the spirit?  Let’s review the book……

The angels reported that you were slack in prayer and fasting….. you  could have studied more, applied more, and talked less….. you got some extra credit for your alms deeds…….but you should have done more with your talents, you were a rebellious daughter , a decent  sister, mother and friend….

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1 Peter 4 vs. 17-19….for the time is come that judgment must begin at the house of God;…. …and if the righteous scarcely be saved, where shall the ungodly and the sinner appear? Wherefore let them that suffer according to the will of God commit the keeping of their souls to him in well doing as unto a faithful Creator.

Marriage is hard, it’s a job. When you get pissed off at your boss, you just don’t curse them out and walk out…and start looking for another job. It is not nine to five or a part-time gig. No days off, round the clock care 24 hrs a day….all day, everyday. You go to work to get a paycheck, you work on your marriage to get love, companionship and enter into the kingdom of heaven.  I have been married for over 20 yrs, and every day is a different trial… I have overcome so many different scenarios and the marriage is stronger for it. But the drama, ladies is really so not worth eternal damnation  .

My aunt Sue just lost her common-law husband…last month….she thought he was going to outlive her, he helped take such good care of her after her stroke….this month my sister Stephanie just lost her husband, he died in his sleep, they were separated for five years because of  his drug addiction and abuse…..you can’t turn back time so don’t waste it, you never know what could happen.

One night we were driving home both pissed off….it was “Very quiet”…then this song came on by Jahiem “  Sometimes I love her , sometimes I love her not’, and he turned the radio volume level to blast!! And just gave me a look……  I know that even when I get on that mans’ last nerve & vice versa, he fears the Lord and is a man of God, and even at our worst, he was praying that things would be better.  In time, with prayer and fasting and a willing spirit,  I can testify that things get better . Nobody wants to be in a horrible, unloving, not peaceful marriage….look in the mirror NOT at the other person and ask yourself want am I contributing, what can I change, what can I do to improve things ….are there things that you see and know about YOURSELF that need to be changed or rooted out? Check yourself, before you wreck yourself and your marriage.

Some days it is beautiful clear skies, the sun is shining & other days its’ thundering and lightning and foggy. There have been days where I could not see the road ahead. I have said in times past that my marriage has been my biggest trial. ( Can  I ever make this man happy? , Is it ever good enough? Why is he so hard on me?….I can honestly say looking back thru the years…. if he was’nt tough….  I would be crazy as hell and buck wild by now.), so just as Israel is married to the Lord, and the nation is  hardheaded and stubborn….why would it be a surprise  to anyone that marriage  is  not going to be easy? Why pretend that you are perfect, when you are clearly not , you just come across as a hypocrite to your husband,  and those that witness your actions and deeds and more importantly the Most High. Offenses will come, and marriage is a union between two people, with different likes and dislikes….hopefully more likes than dislikes. Selfishness, stubbornness, contention, hatred does not make a good marriage….Been there, done that.

1 Corinthians 7 vs. 34…..There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things  of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit; but she that is married careth for the things  of the world, how she may please her husband.

My husband and I used to go see Broadway plays, visit museums and poetry readings a lot in our younger years. He really likes to go to the movies now, and we have date nights at home, another sisters’ husband likes to go out to eat all the time, yet some men prefer a home-cooked meal so you better learn to cook….. Yet another sister .… her husband likes to go out shopping ( he wants her to buy and wear the things he likes ) …YOU have to figure out what your husband likes; food, clothing etc…  I never wear red or pink nail polish or lipstick because early in my relationship my husband said he hated it, ( French manicure 99% of the time or something neutral  for me thanks.)

Worry about keeping your own man, not somebody elses’ man happy or anything else in between…..mind your business! If you don’t have a husband you are   surely not the expert, and even if you are married your husband and another sisters’ husband are not the same……what does your man like or dislike?…… so once again, for all of the naysayers mind your business. Many a comedian has told jokes about the small dog verses the pitbull, or the ugly girl with the big mouth and no man telling all her friends with men what she would do and not do. Shut up…..and as I need to say again MIND YOUR BUSINESS, stop being a busy body!!…. for you sisters with husbands…. Or looking and praying to find the right man for you ….do not go to these women for advice. You will get ill advised counsel.!!

A sister and I were discussing a movie where a group of women are talking and complaining about their men ( a comedy )…..so when one agreed with the other that her man was no good….she was like ‘wait a minute’ ‘that’s my man, don’t nobody talk about him’ and a cat fight broke out! Hair flying, ripped clothes, etc. …..the reason? She could talk about her man…..but another woman better not go there. Scriptures, ladies,  scriptures… course correct and reroute please…..if all you are doing is listening you are feeding the demon…..

So for example, if your man doesn’t like macaroni and cheese, you know he’s not going to eat it,  don’t serve it and your feelings won’t get hurt, make another dish……but if he loves mac and cheese you better make sure you can make it….maid apron and high heels required!

Know your spiritual place…..

Ephesians 5 vs 22-24….wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife ( in righteousness according to the scriptures ) even as Christ is the head of the church ; and he is the savior of the body….therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

1 Corinthians 14 vs 34,35….let your women keep silent in the churches; for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience , as also saith the law….and if they will learn anything, let them ask their husbands at home; for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.

Revelation 2 vs. 20,21….notwithstanding I have a few things against thee, because thou sufferest that woman Jezebel, which calleth herself a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants to commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed to idols….and I gave her space to repent of her fornication; but she repented not.

Israelite women are supposed to be knowledgeable according to the scriptures, so make time and effort to study yourself and apply what you learn. No man wants a dumb woman. As the husband learns and understands, he will be teaching his wife…..in turn the wife should be teaching her children. Just because you as a woman,  may understand the breakdown of certain scriptures as taught TO YOU ( by a man, either your husband, elder, deacon, brother in the faith )…..that doesn’t mean that you should think that you are superior to a man and can now teach them (men ) or their  wives or sisters without a husband. That is not the order of the Heavenly Father, men have always been in authority. The Lord gave them a job, and gave us(women) a job, so do yours’. You can show them (women) the basics, and redirect them to the men of the Lord. There is not an anti-woman campaign or hidden agenda, but the structure and program of the Most High, as it is written in the holy scriptures.

2 Corinthians 11 vs. 3…but I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent bequiled Eve through his  subtility, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ.

1 Timothy 2 vs. 11,12…let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.

Even when you are knowledgeable in the scriptures, you still must accept your lawful place and standing….we have the example of Miriam ,the sister of Moses in the book of  Numbers Chapter 12 who opened her mouth against Moses and was punished with leprosy because of her arrogance and pride.

Numbers 12 vs. 13, 14….and Moses cried unto the Lord, saying, Heal her now, O God, I beseech thee. And the Lord said unto Moses, If her father had but spit in her face, should she not be ashamed seven days? Let her be shut out from the camp seven days, and after that let her be received again.

Webster’s definition of usurp…..to seize and hold (a position, function, prerogative ) rightly belonging to another….to encroach upon a right, privilege or office

Sex…. Female perspective…….Lets’ talk about grown folks business for a minute……if you are insecure or a prudish, my apologies……..

1 Corinthians 7 vs.2……nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his OWN wife, and let every woman have her OWN husband.

Vs. 3-5…let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence ( sex ) and likewise also the  wife unto the husband….the wife hath not power of  her own body, but the husband  and  likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body but the wife….defraud ye not one the other ( with-holding sexual relations ) except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

Coming together sexually can bond you closer to your mate, just like with-holding can drive you farther apart. It has often led to adultery and fornication, it’s   one of the tricks of the devil. My father used to say that he needed his “medicine’ to my mother it wasn’t until I got older that I found out what he was talking about

My parents are from South Carolina , five  generations , direct decendants of slaves….  some still live on farm land. I had growing up more than 12 uncles growing up ,,,10 aunts, and a ton of cousins. I have heard a lot of stories…..about cheating husbands & wives, former friends,  bar brawls, gambling  away the rent money , death threats because of adultery etc…..nothing surprises me , just disappoints…. Spiritual and physical family reunions are a trip our people are sick.!!!

After my grandmothers’ funeral, all the men ( about 55 give or take )  got together in the yard , several generations…..talking about how women today are not like my grandmothers generation……here we go with the stories again!

For example….. women today act like men, they are rude and rough have foul mouths, want respect but don’t give any…..strippers and gold-diggers……. A good man with no job or little money doesn’t have a chance most women want to live the life of a rap video, always hating and comparing what other people got and what they don’t got…..complaining about other women…. And so on,…. I shared a story of something that happened to me last year and this is what several of my uncle’s said with a lot of colorful and choice words left out…….

There is a southern expression that the only reason why a woman would be talking about another womans’ sex life….is because she doesn’t have one, or hers’ is virtually non existing. In addition, be careful because there are many wicked women that are curious so that they can discover your weaknesses and use it to their advantage…. Or try to embarrass you  or your man later…. Or better yet take your place…..so take care of your man ladies!

My younger brother is in his words “banging’ two women…..won’t marry either…..why?  One …he doesn’t trust because she showed herself out and  in  her pride   embarrassed him by listening to  her girlfriends ..she did one thing although she said another , the second woman  he lives with and is the  mother of his kids, she just does not have a clue on how to be a  loving wife….despite the fact he tells her what he wants and needs …. she just won’t do it..

Lets’ use the example of a certain sister whose husband is always ‘smiling’ and in a good mood…. Or if her husband is really smiling today and you see them exchanging looks between them ……don’t hate!!

If your man is miserable and always complaining about something, never wants to buy you anything and you don’t feel special to him…. And you know you have been neglecting this area, figure out how to fix it…..only you alone have the power to calm the savage beast. This sister has made it very clear, that it is her job to make sure that   her man is happy.

Some male relatives told me that men are very simple…like babies….feed them and put them to bed, everything else they can pretty much take care of themselves. They want a lady in the street, chef in the kitchen and a “tramp’  or “ whore ”in the bedroom…  so lets’ use the example of the sister who wants to keep herself attractive her man, so he has something to look forward to, when he gets home, after fighting the rigors of the world all day. She doesn’t worry about him being attracted to women when he is not with her, because there will always be beautiful women…..but   he tells her she is beautiful… more beautiful than other women because she fears the Lord.   So if you slacking off, please take note.

1 Corinthians 11 vs. 9….neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

Women want sex as much as men; however we have our moments when we are turned off sexually. Our mind is connected to our vagina…. When we are happy, she’s very happy……it  sounds  funny  but its’ true. And when you are not happy or mad, she’s not happy either….Everything just shuts   down…….unplugged and unconnected….zap.  Nothing.

Anger, hatred, grudges, an unsolved or resolved arguments gone bad, fighting ,verbal and physical abuse, not being attracted to your spouse, physical problems ( weight, disease etc. ), body image, children running around , maybe you have a new baby and you are too tired to breathe,  all these can lower your sexual libido. If you are sick physically and don’t want sex, that’s one thing, but it is very different from ‘being sick and tired’ emotionally or spiritually. Acknowledge that it is a wicked spirit used to divide and come between you and your husband. You and your spouse need to talk things out in order to get   ‘sexual healing’. …title of an old song by Marvin Gaye ( smile )

A headache, backache, flu, cold, sniffles, fever or whatever your excuse or his ….real or fictional,… is not going to last forever. How long are you planning on holding out? Weeks ? Months?…  Are you committing adultery in your dreams? Fantasizing about Denzel?  Or a brother in the congregation?  You are playing with fire!!! So while you or him are withholding  sexually in your marriage……it only adds fuel to the fire , do not let it build up or your problems will only get worse…….my experience

Proverbs 5 vs. 19…..Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.

Ecclesiastes 9 vs. 9…live joyfully with the wife whom thou loveth all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun…

Apocrypha 25 vs. 1……In three things I was beautified, and stood up beautiful both before God and men;  the unity of brethren , the love of neighbours ,  a man and a wife that agree together.

Deut 22 vs 5….The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth to a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all who do so are an abomination. ( pants, slacks, trousers, etc )

A lot of women have a problem with this from the start, because they think, “What am I going to wear”….and still look cute. I think I started with one denim skirt, that I wore all the time, and just built a wardrobe from there. Now I get compliments all the time on how I dress, and even get an occasional….oh I never realized that you never wore pants because you always look so nice. Duh. It is possible. Some may say how am I going to stay warm in the winter? The women in the so –called American Indian tribes survived some of the harshest winters , female slaves on the plantations worked in the fields without pants and often without shoes, so don’t use the excuse of warmth. You can wear tights’ , stockings , panty hose & leggings , thermals, UNDER your clothing. They are not to be used as a substitute for a wardrobe. All about vanity, no one should be able to see the crack or curve of your backside . The so-called Jewish women, who stole our identity, have no problem with this ….why do you? Because you want to show what your mamma gave ya….

There was a time when women were expected to dress like a lady, and act like one too…nothing less was accepted, especially in the black community. During segregation, dress code was clearly defined in schools , church and around the way. As society changed culturally so did moral expectations. The only time you really see women in a dress or skirt now is only when they are going to “serve da Lord”

We have to remember that prior to the turn of the century women   NEVER wore pants. , slave  owners  had female servants  dressing them in layers, and layers…and the rich wore petticoats, and knickers under those beautiful dresses, and those that did dress like a man were put to death. Remember Joan of Arc? When female slaves were taught to sew, we were given the scraps to make garments for ourselves, maybe one spring/summer outfit and a fall/winter outfit, you were really fortunate if you had a decent pair of shoes…. no one was making or thinking about a pair of slacks back then. Imagine having to sew a garment by hand ?, not having the use of electricity and a sewing machine…..Your wardrobe usually consisted of the clothes on your back, and maybe one other change of clothes if you were fortunate enough to have a master that was a little bit merciful. Consider yourself blessed when you can look around and see the different dresses and skirts and beautiful things that you own as change of apparel…..our foremothers didn’t have options in captivity.  

Women of Israel and our daughters should know how to sew, everyone needs clothes on their back . Being a tailor or seam-tress it is a profession that has lost some of its’ importance in modern society as the advance of machines and mass reproduction in the manufacturing industry, has grown, but still has a big standing with the Lord.

Proverbs 31 vs 19…..she layeth her hand to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

Acts 9 vs 39….and all the widows stood by him weeping, and shewing the coats and garments which Dorcas had made, while she was with them

Fashion is dictated by society, mainly the filthy rich in couture houses in Europe…then filtered down to the common folk at cheap cost so trends come and go, however the wearing of pants has stayed dominant as the Feminist movement , and sexual revolutions   were played out in the 1960’s and 1970’s.

Zephaniah 1 vs 8…And it shall come to pass in the day of the Lord’s sacrifice, that I will punish the princes, and the kings children, and all such that are clothed in strange apparel.

Numbers 15 vs 38…speak unto the children of Israel , and bid them that they make them fringes in the borders of their garments throughout  their generations, and that they put upon the fringe of the borders a ribband of blue.

Deut. 22 vs. 11….Thou shalt not wear a garment of divers sorts, as of woolen and linen together.

When you are shopping for clothing for you and your family, look for the fabric content label  to say 100% which is usually in the inside of the article of clothing. If it is mixed you should not purchase it…so for example (re; 90% cotton denim and 10% spandex, or 40% linen and 60% rayon…) When you go out, you are representing not only your house , but more importantly the house of the Most High and Christ…..make sure you are dressed appropriately…..not too short(  should be below your knees or longer ), not too tight, nor revealing  or flashy.

Ezekiel 16 vs 11-14…. I decked thee with ornaments, and I put bracelets upon thy hands, and a chain upon thy neck….and I put a jewel on thy forehead, and earrings in thine ears and a   beautiful crown on thy head….thus was t thou decked with gold and silver; and thy raiment was of  fine linen, and silk and broidered work……and thy renown went forth among the heathen for thy beauty.

I Corinthians 11 vs. 3-6…. But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of  Christ is God……every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonoreth his head ( Christ )….but every woman that prayest or prophesieth with her head uncovered, dishonoreth her head ( husband or father );  for that is even all one as if she were shaven…..for if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn or shaven, let her be covered.

Whenever you are talking about the scriptures  or blessing your food, or attending a service in the presence of men you should have your head covered. You should teach your daughters this also at a young age , so that they are comfortable with it, they may forget and have to go running around trying to find one at an inappropriate time. Practice tying different types of head coverings, and looks so that you can match up to  your  personal style. My mother is always complaining that my daughter likes to have her head coverings on all the time, that’s’ how comfortable she is with it, she thinks she should show off her pretty long hair….so what!, my daughter knows  she better have a head covering when she needs to… haughtiness  & vanity is what got us in trouble as women to begin with, part of the curse we have inherited, is jacked up hair… Our women, yes us sisters….spend a small fortune in the hair and cosmetic industry to become acceptable to what mainstream   society has deemed  necessary to “fit in’. Although locks, braids and natural   hairstyles  have found  more popularity in recent years it still is frowned upon in corporate America, despite the  limited tokens that have made their way up the ladder.  So in general  black and some latino women are really funny about their hair and what we put on it or in it, how we wear it and take care of it, there are tons of hair salons available to pacify our perceived hair demons.  I completely understand…vanity…I get it…. you need to know really I do……

I have had so  many  personal hair stories…. Like the time I got a relaxer and some beautiful crunch waves and after wearing the style for two weeks I went to wash my hair and it literally melted off my head and went down the drain because the hairstylist forgot to use the neutralizer, ( my husband was home and heard me sobbing  on the bathroom  floor … it had grown  healthy and to my shoulders  after I had grown it out from a very short haircut  so I could wear my own hair for my wedding……I was traumatized  it has never been the same again ) in between  that some other bad hair dye jobs , plus messed up haircuts … the time in  college  while preparing for a fashion show I heated up some grease on the stove to put in   my hair , because I didn’t know that I needed to use the oil sheen spray and the straightening comb  and got a third degree burn on my forehead and had to wear a wig with bangs for a month to cover the bandaids ……not to mention my current battle to overcome an afro of dry natural kinky  curly hair.

Despite your hair story or style,  just remember whether you have a weave , wig, locks, braids,  natural , or relaxed….if you grow it, sew it or glue it….you still need a head covering.

There are some sisters who may say if they are wearing a wig or a weave they don’t need a head covering…….you still do,  it is simply a matter of respect……does the average  person looking at you know that you are wearing a weave or a wig ? No, they do not , all they see is a woman who is being submissive to what the scriptures say.

1Thess. 5 vs.22….abstain  from  all appearances of evil.

If, you are being anointed with oil, and you have a wig , extensions, braids, a weave, etc…..you can either simply separate the tracks so that the oil can go directly to your scalp…..you can push your wig back, etc……if you know in advance plan a different hair style, oil also will go through a head covering  directly to the head just rub it in……basically where there is a will there is a way…..I have had them all, so I know it can be done

Carry a head covering in your purse or bag, be prepared always. My daughter has one in her book-bag for school, last spring she was wearing a pretty scarf to match her clothes, and the teacher told her she needed to take it off,( against school policy ) and my daughter had to explain why.

I called and spoke to the principal, and wrote a letter that this teacher was   compromising my childs’ religious rights and discriminating against her….never had that problem again.

At one point, society used to alienate a woman if she had something on her head as the importance of hats and humility wore off in modern culture in this country. In other countries , and cultures women still cover their heads as a level of respect, in  certain Arab nations it is the law, and even in England hats are still a way of life especially for formal affairs.  Sisters it is much more widely acceptable to wear a head covering on your head today, it has gotten very popular in the mainstream…

1Timothy 2 vs 9…..in like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold or pearls, or costly array; but( which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.

1 Peter 3 vs 3-6….whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; but let it be the hidden  man ( Christ ) of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit which is in the sight of God of great price….for after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection to their own husbands;

This is not saying that you cannot get your hair done, or  wear and have nice things…….however let it be understood clearly that it is what is on the inside ( your Spirit ) that is more important in your life, such as the commandments  of the Lord.

Vs . 6 Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord; whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

Most of us have at least , I’d say a high school grade education or higher so taking that into consideration , there is no need to play games  with words and their meaning or ‘strive’ with the more educated amongst us.

So let’s take  a look at the word lord …….( note the lower case  letter l  in the biblical verse in  1 Peter 3 vs. 6 )

The Compact Bible Dictionary definition….. lord

Applied to both men and God and expresses varied degrees of honor, dignity, and majesty.

Webster’s Dictionary & Thesaurus   definition……lord

Noun derived from   the country Great  Britian…a nobleman or person entitled to use ‘lord’ before their name , the first word in  certain official titles, a member of certain boards  exercising high state office….(a master, ruler, or sovereign ) …a  British title of rank given  as a courtesy title to the younger son  of a duke or marquess. It is also used as a form of address or reference for a baron, marquess, earl or viscount or any holder of the courtesy title lord

NOT to be confused with Christ our Lord, or the Lord God

Historians and movie buffs alike can attest to the constant , and consistent use of ‘my lord’, and ‘my lady’ over time…not a problem, never a big deal…..until now.

So for those of you who say, you don’t agree, so be it…. this isn’t  a debate.

Proverbs 21 vs. 30…there is no wisdom nor understanding nor counsel against the Lord.

I am sure all of us at sometime or another growing up or as adults have met or known someone that was absolutely beautiful on the outside but ugly on the inside.  We all know it when we see it…..loud, disrespectful nasty , rude….she could be your mom or mine, a store clerk, your neighbor a supermodel or a model wanna be.  As women of the Most High we should not be this way. Life is not a popularity contest as if we are spending an eternity in high school, but rather seeking to get eternal life. Sadly it is a reflection of how far our self hatred for ourselves have come and our need to compete with one another.  Beauty fades, then what do you have left? Now let’s make it perfectly clear  and reiterate that no one is saying you need to walk around looking a hot mess, because we know our foremothers such as Sarah , Judith, Susanna and many others were known to be beautiful not only on the outside ( decked out, full righteous glam our ) but more importantly the spirit of the Lord  was on them and that beauty withstands the test of time. There have been movies made about….and to quote one of my favorite lines from the movie “ The Color Purple”…… “I may be black, and I might even be ugly, but I’m here ! ”